When my oldest son Elijah was 5 years old I was pregnant with my second child and my husband was deployed. I had so much going on. There was a day my baby boy came into the room and said to me,"WHY IS DADDY NOT COMING HOME?" That is when I realized that I did not COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY that daddy was deployed. Before that moment, I am not sure if I myself fully grasped all the feelings this 5 year old child was trying to articulate.
During my conversation with him I reassured him that Daddy did in fact love us. That daddy was safe, and how SPECIAL he was to go away and serve his country. Did he understand me? I did my best to make him understand...
It is important to communicate this information to your child in a way that he/she will understand. This is strictly based on the child's age and their level of understanding.
I decided to make a calendar. I made a calender out of a poster board so that my son would better understand the amount of time daddy would be gone. Each day I would allow Elijah to mark off a day with a "X". He would be so excited. This seemed to relax him and it also involved him in the deployment process in a positive way.
Remember parents to be honest and EFFECTIVELY PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR THIS DEPLOYMENT.
LASHON CAMPBELL RESIDES IN OCEANWAY, FLORIDA WITH HER HUSBAND A NAVY COMMAND MASTER CHIEF AND THEIR 3 CHILDREN.
MOTHER OF 3